Life Beyond the Bar Scene: After a Few Beers Everyone Looks Good and Other Love Stories
Mar 2011 17

Life Beyond the Bar Scene: After a Few Beers Everyone Looks Good and Other Love Stories

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by Laurelin

Relationships are funny. I remember thinking when I was dating my ex that two people couldn’t be more perfect for each other. I was so lucky to be with my best friend and I couldn’t imagine facing the world with anyone but him by my side. As time went on I think I realized that maybe that was part of our problem – maybe we were always just meant to be friends. The world started looking a little different to me when I finally pinpointed that what I had always viewed as one of our strengths was actually a fatal weakness.

I always looked at other people’s relationships and almost felt bad. They fought, they cheated, they lied. My ex and I never did any of these things. It’s weird to think though, almost two years with not one fight? Again, something I thought of as a good thing was actually someone’s lack of caring, though it was a mutual choice to stay silent and forget rather than work on our problems. We talked all the time, every day, every night, but we never really communicated.

It makes me question the type of people I attract, or that attract me. In my life time I have dated a guy that wound up hooking up with my best friend, a guy who cheated on me when I studied abroad, a guy who tried to control every aspect of my life, and a guy who couldn’t communicate beyond being capable of ordering a late night pizza. What do they all have in common? Drinking. We are drinkers. We are bartenders, servers, night owls, social butterflies.

I met every one of these men either in a frat house or bar. I’m not complaining about this. Meeting people in these situations means that these guys can keep up with me, that they won’t look down on my bar scene life. They can handle a public conversation and are fun to be around. But as I get older, I can see that becoming a problem. Frat boys turn career bartenders, career bartenders turn to couch ridden alcoholics. I don’t want to know what comes after that.

The other night while I was at the bar a guy approached me and asked if I wanted a drink. One of the major perks of being a single girl is being able to wholeheartedly say YES to the offer of a drink without feeling guilty about leading the guy on. I agreed and stood up to join him at the bar while we waited on a few shots. I noticed this surly looking girl glaring at me from a few feet away.

“What’s that girl’s problem?” I nudged the guy.

“Oh, that’s my girlfriend,” he said nonchalantly, “she’s a bitch.”

Stop the presses. What? I immediately turned around and went back to my table and watched as the poor girlfriend went over and started screaming at the guy and gesturing over at me. I felt terrible. I felt even more terrible when he shoved her off him and ran back over to me.

“Sorry,” he said. “I don’t even like her. What shots did we want? I’ll go get them.”

The look of horror on my face must not have gotten my point across, because two minutes later he was back at my table with six shots. “I didn’t know what you liked, so I got two Washington Apples, two Jameson, and two Red-Headed Sluts.”

The girlfriend came running over, and slapped him, yelling, “Why do you always do this? You are embarrassing me! It’s time to go HOME!” He looked at me as he was getting dragged out of the bar and actually yelled, “CALL ME!”

Yeah buddy, coming right up. You seem like a real stand up guy.

My friends and I had a good laugh and were left with a table of six shots, so we helped ourselves. But it really got me thinking. This is the path I’m willingly headed down. If those are the types of guys I’m meeting in bars, then what kind of girl am I? It works both ways. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with some lush. Conversely, do guys want to take a girl that they met while drunk at a bar home to mom?

I suppose I’ll have to deal with this at some point. But for now, as long as people are hand delivering me six shots at a time, I think I’ll stay for last call and enjoy this single life just a little longer…

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