Confessions of a Shy Gamer
May 2011 18

Confessions of a Shy Gamer

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by Bob Suicide

Hi, my name is Bob Suicide and I’m a shy gamer.

Generally, there isn’t a lot of stigma being a shy, quiet geek. After all, as a group, us nerds aren’t known for being boisterous. We play our games, download/stream our shows, and read our comics all from the safety of our solitary couches. However, with the recent surge in mainstream desire for geek culture, we’ve been thrust off of our couches and into the social scene.

You know you’re a hardcore gamer when you can watch someone else play a game with the same satisfaction you would received if you played it yourself. I’ve “played” many a game sitting next to the controller as the go-to strat guide girl or the rapt spectator rooting my friends on. Generally, my shy nature doesn’t preclude me from enjoying the ridiculous level of gaming that I expect from my daily life. But sometimes you just have to be the one pressing the buttons to get the full joy from the experience; sometimes, you can feel a little left out sitting on the sidelines…and it’s then that I lament my epic shyness.


I HATE talking on the phone, I’m horribly awkward in social situations, and -unlike most people – that social reservation doesn’t wane when I’m hidden behind a headset or a computer. I’m just as gawky and graceless, and I have the same problems talking to strangers whether I’m on Vent or in the street. I don’t raid, I won’t give you my gamertag, I don’t want to join your guild, and I’m WAY to shy to play co-op with you. I was always picked last in school…I don’t want to be the toon with her hand up begging to be added to your party (regardless of how good I may actually be). And, considering the aforementioned stereotyping that comes with being a geek, I know I can’t be the only “Shy Guy” out there.

In this overly-PC (politically correct…not Microsoft) arena, it’s a wonder that the extrovertedly-challenged aren’t politely represented in more games. We have rights too! :P

However, with the recent issues surrounding the PSN hack, it’s become clear that the online multiplayer format is now core to the hardcore gaming experience. The focus of some games is entirely multiplayer which means I’m relegated to the sidelines because of my introversion.

It would be great if more FPS had amazingly captivating storylines like Modern Warfare 2. While the bulk of the game’s longevity can be owed to it’s robust multiplayer mode, I sill find myself staring longingly into the middle distance as my brain softly whispers, “Ghost,” and “Remember… no Russian.” I didn’t feel like I was missing out on gameplay by sticking to the story mode…and I find myself playing it over and over. And, I loved Gears of War. In fact, it was a perfect blend of sci-fi, 3rd person shooting, and ass-kicking marines that stuck a chord deep in the pit of my geeky soul. But, with only five chapters, the story mode left this geek wanting more. I just can’t bring myself to join a game of capture-the-flag while waiting for Gears of War 3′s release.

I don’t want to give up my hardcore gamer status because of my social deficiencies. I don’t want to be left behind as the trend in gaming becomes more socially based and less experience based. I don’t want to feel like I’m missing out on “the good stuff” because I’m shy or anti-social. I want a satisfying gaming experience that doesn’t involve being teased by strangers or joining a raid of people I’ve never met.

After all, we turned to games back in the day so we wouldn’t have to play outside with the other kids…why is Brink forcing me to log-on and play with the other children?

I’m Bob Suicide and I’m a shy gamer…who’s with me? (Don’t worry, you don’t have to raise your hand…us introverts don’t like to be singled out.)

11 comments
grover... like the muppet
grover... like the muppet

i'm a pretty shy person as well. i'm not the life of the party i'm the guy in the group of frienuseless facts while his friends get tanked, and that carries over to my gaming too. i'm usually much happier to play a single player mode over multiplayer game any day. everyone else just annoys the hell out of me and takes stuff way too seriously. i think that's why i'm on my 5th play through of mass effect 2. 

Porphyria Suicide
Porphyria Suicide

I agree completely, I love games especially RPG's so it's sometimes hard to not want to be drawn to MMO's, but it's hard when you are so socially inept and reclusive to get anywhere in games that require the power of a guild to really take down anything signifigant. I can't even understand the lure of it, or why my fiacee is so loyal to his "guild time" or loves to play multiplayer games signed into ventrillo... it would stress me out completely.

Totz the Plaid
Totz the Plaid

I've had issues with poor self-confidence and social anxiety, so while I'm a lot better now, I can relate to this. I don't have a current system (I'm a broke college student searching for a job), so I couldn't do online play anyway, but I still understand sorta what you're going through. You're really awesome, though, so I hope you're able to meet some really awesome people despite this!

grim_ronin
grim_ronin

I was a shy gamer, tho there's still many games I refuse to Vs. on.  What I've found is the most fun for me is a good two person co-op with a friend who balances me out.  I'm playful, reckless and precise when I play, my best friend Mike tends to be more serious, careful and supportive.  When we play FPS together a whole different side of me shows up than if I play alone!  I become more assertive, we plan and strategize crazy effective pincer attacks, lure and lobs, all kinds of really fun techniques one person can't do alone.  I'll even charge in and smack something to really piss it off so he can turn around a corner and backstab.  In other genres of games we still do pretty much the same type of dynamic, he fills holes in my tactics. My opinion is you aren't missing much from fighting other people.  I've thrown controllers, swore, punched walls and just been a dick in general.  I chose not to play anymore.  At least not until I'm one of the best out there!  Then it can become fun again.  But if I win a lot it's the other player who'll get pissed off, so I still refrain from it, I have to be in a weird mood. However, by not finding people you enjoy playing with you're missing out on a lot!  Nothing refreshes an old favorite game like playing WITH someone.  I can't count the number of times I've replayed Resident Evil 5 just because a friend would kill zombies too.  Co-op is your friend Bob, unless you find elitist douchebags.  They're out there for sure but there's also a lot of really cool players who support, joke, tease, laugh with and just enjoy the games together!  I'd honestly give up a kidney to play with you on xbl.  (I don't play WoW, sorry.)  But that's just because I think you're fascinating, and we'd be good friends.  I'd beg a lot harder but in a few days I leave for Army basic, so for the next almost half year there's no games for me.  Damn damn damn.  I do encourage you to break just a little out of your shyguy mask, or at least shoot seeds at people and see who shoots back.  Co-op online can be a real blast!  Trust a 26 year veteran of video games, playing alone is fun but playing with others blows it out of the water every time.

Anonymous
Anonymous

I'm not a shy gamer but I feel you, I really enjoy single player games and companies like rockstar games still have our backs with games like the GTA franchise and LA noir, then you have Arkem City coming and so on. As you say how long before everything is online :( We keep on playing they keep on making :-D awkes7 8-)

NeuroMan42
NeuroMan42

*raises hand* I understand ya. Overall, I prefer my small group of friends and spending time at home with my girlfriend and her daughter. I also hate playing an Online game with people other than the RL and Web friends.

PyckenZot
PyckenZot

I'm with ya!!! With some reservations as I'm deep into EVE online. But still, I've got your back! (as I'm not too fond of running point ;)   )

Joey Z
Joey Z

I'm with ya, I'm not toally shy, I have bunches of friends, but I don't meet new people, they have to be introduced to me.  As Games go, I always want to play the big names, the big games, I played WOW for a while, and still do, but its all so team based now, and no matter what I do, I just am not having fun doing those group things.  My favorite Game is Zelda, why?, probably because I never tire of the story lines, and its never multiplayer.  I love having a good immersive game I can play by myself, that lasts for a long time, challenges me, and me alone, and I don't have to play with others if I don't want to.  I also Love the Fable Series, for much the same reason.  Rock on with your bad self BobSuicide.  I always love hears that the girls I can see whenever I want, are just as shy as me.  Makes you even cuter.

Bob Suicide
Bob Suicide

I let you in on my dirty little secret in Confessions of a Shy Gamer on the @suicidegirls blog!

Bob Suicide
Bob Suicide

I let you in on my dirty little secret in Confessions of a Shy Gamer on the @suicidegirls blog!

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